Adoring Bono

“There is a possibility — a slim one, but a possibility nonetheless — that on this night, after his speech ends, I will meet my hero. There is a chance that I will finally come face-to-face with Bono,” writes Jen Chaney in The Washington Post.

Chaney describes her obsession with Bono and U2 in a prose that will have many fans identifying with her. Some fans, however, will shudder at the extremeness of her devotion. (“I made ‘meeting Bono’ the No. 1 item on my list of things to do before I die.”)

54 thoughts on “Adoring Bono

  1. I read this earlier today and wonder how half the world can meet Bono and this woman fails at what is her No 1 priority? Really, it’s not THAT hard to meet the man. She just doesn’t seem to be willing to do a lot for it and just relies on others to bring him to her.

  2. I read this earlier today and wonder how half the world can meet Bono and this woman fails at what is her No 1 priority? Really, it’s not THAT hard to meet the man. She just doesn’t seem to be willing to do a lot for it and just relies on others to bring him to her.

  3. Mostly true vonb, and I think if she really wanted to she could try a bit harder (without being ruthless or overboard), but then I do know some people who do what they can and have just the rottenest luck!

  4. Mostly true vonb, and I think if she really wanted to she could try a bit harder (without being ruthless or overboard), but then I do know some people who do what they can and have just the rottenest luck!

  5. Ewww that was icky *shudder*. Just a thought – maybe she doesn’t really want to meet him. If she did, and she realised he was *just a guy*, her life-sustaining obsession would crash and burn pretty quick, LOL.

  6. Ewww that was icky *shudder*. Just a thought – maybe she doesn’t really want to meet him. If she did, and she realised he was *just a guy*, her life-sustaining obsession would crash and burn pretty quick, LOL.

  7. creepy — and borderline stalker, and what is with this anticlimactic writing? sounds like she is reluctant to have her “wildest” fantasy come true. the ability to be disillusioned is to become a grown up.

  8. creepy — and borderline stalker, and what is with this anticlimactic writing? sounds like she is reluctant to have her “wildest” fantasy come true. the ability to be disillusioned is to become a grown up.

  9. Note, however, that she didn’t make meeting Bono her number 1 priority until after his trip to Africa last year. That’s pretty recent, and they’re not on tour or anything, so I don’t blame her for not having met him yet. I personally have no desire to meet any of the band members in that way – the fan handshake autograph thing – but that’s just my choice.

  10. Note, however, that she didn’t make meeting Bono her number 1 priority until after his trip to Africa last year. That’s pretty recent, and they’re not on tour or anything, so I don’t blame her for not having met him yet. I personally have no desire to meet any of the band members in that way – the fan handshake autograph thing – but that’s just my choice.

  11. i kind of agree with lucy, and i think this fan wanted her first meeting with bono to be ‘special’ like she probably has dreamed about. i can relate, because the last thing i would want if i had the chance to meet bono would be coming off as a crazy fan. But come on! She has come too close too many times! I wish her luck to meet him soon. and i hope to do so also. 😉

  12. i kind of agree with lucy, and i think this fan wanted her first meeting with bono to be ‘special’ like she probably has dreamed about. i can relate, because the last thing i would want if i had the chance to meet bono would be coming off as a crazy fan. But come on! She has come too close too many times! I wish her luck to meet him soon. and i hope to do so also. 😉

  13. I think her best close call was with the trip to Africa with her magazine – now that’s a legit way to meet the guy, on assignment. That’s my hope someday. 🙂

  14. I think her best close call was with the trip to Africa with her magazine – now that’s a legit way to meet the guy, on assignment. That’s my hope someday. 🙂

  15. I really do find it interesting, some people are huge fans of the biggest jerks in showbiz and would consider themselves lucky to get an autograph, a handshake, much less a picture. Now here’s Bono the most down to earth and accessible star, who IMO is on a whole different level than most other celebrity types, who will go out of his way to shake the hand of that desperate fan on the end of line, but for many it’s not enough. They won’t be happy till he buys them a round and send them Christmas cards every year. Ok I’m exaggerating, but you gotta feel sorry for the guy, especially when he reads stuff like this only to realize all the effort is sometimes in vain. Oh well, tis the life of a celebrity.

  16. I really do find it interesting, some people are huge fans of the biggest jerks in showbiz and would consider themselves lucky to get an autograph, a handshake, much less a picture. Now here’s Bono the most down to earth and accessible star, who IMO is on a whole different level than most other celebrity types, who will go out of his way to shake the hand of that desperate fan on the end of line, but for many it’s not enough. They won’t be happy till he buys them a round and send them Christmas cards every year. Ok I’m exaggerating, but you gotta feel sorry for the guy, especially when he reads stuff like this only to realize all the effort is sometimes in vain. Oh well, tis the life of a celebrity.

  17. me, did the author come off as blaming Bono for her inability to meet him? It didn’t sound that way at all, so why would the story be disappointing to him?

  18. me, did the author come off as blaming Bono for her inability to meet him? It didn’t sound that way at all, so why would the story be disappointing to him?

  19. most people who really appreciate the people that they also idealize do not have to go out of the way to meet them. there is a certain confirmation which is ‘silently’ understood — this is good for most fans. i, myself have been fortunate to be in a room when the group were rehearsing with only 3 other people…being quite literary, still — the chance to meet him (or any of the members of the band) was not even a question. this is not a question about availability of bono, or that of a fan getting to meet someone who has influenced them — this is about the slow painstaking fantasy of a —um, what was it that david byrne said? indulgence in these fantasies and unreal beliefs is what killed another man on central park west.

  20. most people who really appreciate the people that they also idealize do not have to go out of the way to meet them. there is a certain confirmation which is ‘silently’ understood — this is good for most fans. i, myself have been fortunate to be in a room when the group were rehearsing with only 3 other people…being quite literary, still — the chance to meet him (or any of the members of the band) was not even a question. this is not a question about availability of bono, or that of a fan getting to meet someone who has influenced them — this is about the slow painstaking fantasy of a —um, what was it that david byrne said? indulgence in these fantasies and unreal beliefs is what killed another man on central park west.

  21. I’m not normally a very superstitious person, but good Christ let’s please stop the talk about CPW and B’s accessibility in the same thread. I was freaked out enough when he started on the JL rant in the end of Bullet shortly after buying that place. It’s not even something to contemplate. Can we please change the subject? Thanks.

  22. I’m not normally a very superstitious person, but good Christ let’s please stop the talk about CPW and B’s accessibility in the same thread. I was freaked out enough when he started on the JL rant in the end of Bullet shortly after buying that place. It’s not even something to contemplate. Can we please change the subject? Thanks.

  23. i dont think the author is obsessed. and dont crap her for getting upset about missing her chance to meet a person she admires! i would feel mighty shitty if i was her, but would get over it as i’m sure she will. I have come to terms with the fact that, being a student in the midwestern US with no money and no connections, a stadium floor crowded with thousands of other fans is as close as I’ll get to tell U2 how much they mean to me.

  24. i dont think the author is obsessed. and dont crap her for getting upset about missing her chance to meet a person she admires! i would feel mighty shitty if i was her, but would get over it as i’m sure she will. I have come to terms with the fact that, being a student in the midwestern US with no money and no connections, a stadium floor crowded with thousands of other fans is as close as I’ll get to tell U2 how much they mean to me.

  25. I like to think of it as being “focused” rather than obsessed. We U2 fans are just very focused. haha. 🙂

  26. I like to think of it as being “focused” rather than obsessed. We U2 fans are just very focused. haha. 🙂

  27. Maybe she could merely touch the hem of his leather jacket and be cured of her passion?

  28. Maybe she could merely touch the hem of his leather jacket and be cured of her passion?

  29. I know from personal experience when meeting someone famous, its hard bc everyone wants a piece of them all the time. I think that she wanted to meet him and actually say a few words instead of just getting a quick handshake and an autograph/photo. I hope to someday meet him and the rest of U2 but it will be a long time before I do.

  30. I know from personal experience when meeting someone famous, its hard bc everyone wants a piece of them all the time. I think that she wanted to meet him and actually say a few words instead of just getting a quick handshake and an autograph/photo. I hope to someday meet him and the rest of U2 but it will be a long time before I do.

  31. not to be too cynical, but –being profound is not even something b has mastered. this “meeting” is not about bono, it is about her own personal indulgence and insecurities. as with most s——s, it is not about those that they idolize or idealize, it is about some other freudian complex that u2 just happened to tap into. –curb your actualism.

  32. not to be too cynical, but –being profound is not even something b has mastered. this “meeting” is not about bono, it is about her own personal indulgence and insecurities. as with most s——s, it is not about those that they idolize or idealize, it is about some other freudian complex that u2 just happened to tap into. –curb your actualism.

  33. Wait…wait…this chick isn’t a stalker. In fact, she’s anything but! She’s gone about trying to meet him all the conventional ‘right’ ways — trying to get the assignment to cover his trip, going to a flesh-press event, etc. etc. She just doesn’t understand that’s not how you meet this particular band. If she’s a stalker, she’s the world’s worst. LOL

  34. Wait…wait…this chick isn’t a stalker. In fact, she’s anything but! She’s gone about trying to meet him all the conventional ‘right’ ways — trying to get the assignment to cover his trip, going to a flesh-press event, etc. etc. She just doesn’t understand that’s not how you meet this particular band. If she’s a stalker, she’s the world’s worst. LOL

  35. OK, I agree this story is self-indulgent and kind of embarassing. But I’ll let you in on something. As a journalist (and yes I am one) you spend your life writing about other people’s lives, achievements and feelings. So when the time comes to report on something that is so close to you and something that is kind of embarassing, the story always turns out to be clumsy, foolish and not a true reflection of how you’re really feeling.

    I became a journalist because as a child I was completely obsessed with Australian cricket captain Steve Waugh (no kidding – at 12 years of age, I wanted to be Richie Benaud). By 17 I had interviewed him and by 22 I’d interviewed him three times. But I never wrote any silly stories about it. My other great obsession was defintely U2 and Bono. Does anyone remember the great “Sandal Scandal”? That was my first front page story in my first “real” newspaper job. I was stoked to get U2 on the front page of the paper. Our Noosa photographer was the lucky one who tracked the band down and got a photo. I have to say, I too felt a bit like the now infamous Washington Post scribe “Far away, but so close”. I’d love to meet Bono. And while I joke about the fact that I’d probably lie face down on the concrete and chant “I am not worthy” I think it would be my duty to try and hold it together as a professional – and psyche out about it later. And there’s no way I’d put any of my personal feelings about it on paper – especially not for the world to see. Because I know I’d come off looking like a complete loser, no matter how hard I tried to make the words come out right.

  36. OK, I agree this story is self-indulgent and kind of embarassing. But I’ll let you in on something. As a journalist (and yes I am one) you spend your life writing about other people’s lives, achievements and feelings. So when the time comes to report on something that is so close to you and something that is kind of embarassing, the story always turns out to be clumsy, foolish and not a true reflection of how you’re really feeling.

    I became a journalist because as a child I was completely obsessed with Australian cricket captain Steve Waugh (no kidding – at 12 years of age, I wanted to be Richie Benaud). By 17 I had interviewed him and by 22 I’d interviewed him three times. But I never wrote any silly stories about it. My other great obsession was defintely U2 and Bono. Does anyone remember the great “Sandal Scandal”? That was my first front page story in my first “real” newspaper job. I was stoked to get U2 on the front page of the paper. Our Noosa photographer was the lucky one who tracked the band down and got a photo. I have to say, I too felt a bit like the now infamous Washington Post scribe “Far away, but so close”. I’d love to meet Bono. And while I joke about the fact that I’d probably lie face down on the concrete and chant “I am not worthy” I think it would be my duty to try and hold it together as a professional – and psyche out about it later. And there’s no way I’d put any of my personal feelings about it on paper – especially not for the world to see. Because I know I’d come off looking like a complete loser, no matter how hard I tried to make the words come out right.

  37. Anyone who says meeting him isn’t that hard hasn’t felt the disappointments I have. I can relate to her story. During the tour, I followed the band to 8 cities trying to meet them before or after a show or at a hotel. I missed by only a few minutes 3 times. It was heartbreaking seeing everyone else run up screaming with their autographs. I have become so bitter I don’t want to hear anyone else’s happy story. I feel for her and wish her luck.

    I know it must be easy if you stalk the studio in Dublin, but I am not able to go over there, and honestly I would be embarrassed parking myself on that park bench day after day. If I ever meet them I hope it’s by chance, out of the blue one day. It would be my own special experience.

  38. Anyone who says meeting him isn’t that hard hasn’t felt the disappointments I have. I can relate to her story. During the tour, I followed the band to 8 cities trying to meet them before or after a show or at a hotel. I missed by only a few minutes 3 times. It was heartbreaking seeing everyone else run up screaming with their autographs. I have become so bitter I don’t want to hear anyone else’s happy story. I feel for her and wish her luck.

    I know it must be easy if you stalk the studio in Dublin, but I am not able to go over there, and honestly I would be embarrassed parking myself on that park bench day after day. If I ever meet them I hope it’s by chance, out of the blue one day. It would be my own special experience.

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